"When I first met Alonzo I had absolutely no idea what he did for a living. What I did know is that he was a fantastic individual who wanted the best for those around him and ensured that each individual got what they needed during our time of service. This very fact motivated me to seek him out to the point that I arranged a business meeting in Utah not with him but on the off chance that I meet him and see if it was true. Did he live congruently? What I found was not only did he walk the walk he lived it! He had an amazing relationship with his beautiful wife, and the connection and interaction with his daughter that completely blew me away. We went to his favorite restaurant where we all had a blast, not just us but everyone around us the atmosphere was infectious and we had a night that I will never forget. Especially frog! Alonzo generously invited us back to his house – Oh, I didn’t mention that I brought a co-worker with me who was quickly enchanted by the Cahoon family. He commented that his own family did not make him feel as welcome and Alonzo’s family did that evening. So does he drive a BMW? No a Ford F250 jacked up but more important than that there are these amazing pictures of his family on every wall. I knew then that this guy was for real, this was his home, his life, not something turned on and off. This is who he really was and is! Needless to say I wanted to know how in world was he able to do this? Could my life work like this? Could I be this happy? Could my wife be as happy with me as his was with him? They were really in love and it was not a show.
We talked late into the night and I found a great deal about Alonzo’s life and what actually did for a living. Turned out he helped people to get their lives straight especially men like me who loved my wife with all my heart but only seemed to hit the mark once a week or sometimes once a month. I was tired, she was tired, and there was no spark, just love. The fire and passion had died with a woman that I would have killed for, that I met in a warzone; we had overcome language barriers, social barriers, religious barriers, cultural barriers, and the disapproval of both our families. We dated in secret for five years and would drive forty minutes one way to see her for just five minutes and make sure she got home safe. What has happened? The answer most people would give you that love fades with time and that is natural progression. Passion fades to a numb acceptance of sex on Saturday night and a kiss is an obligation when arriving or departing.
Then I started on 46 days and nights of focus on my relationship with my wife. I focused on her and everything she was, is and will be. Alonzo guided me on a journey to rediscover this magnificent creature, this mystery that God had blessed me with a chance to be in her presence every day. My beautiful wife, my lover, my friend, she has returned to her rightful place, being first in my life.
No one I know or have every known expects me to send them a text at 0500 in the morning and then sends, one back with questions expecting answers. Almost every day for eight months straight and on the days that I didn’t send one I received one. Where are you? Where are your standards? Who are you becoming? Questions that hit home and get you moving on those days that need that boost when it matters most.
I cannot say enough about what he has done for my family and me over the past eight months. But just today my wife said, I haven’t met Alonzo in person but I love him and what he has done for us.
Alonzo and Rebecca – words cannot express my gratitude for what you all do so selflessly for others. Thank you from our entire family and thank you making us part of yours! We love you!"